Coping with temper tantrums (1050)

Babies get frustrated and mad sometimes when they can't do what they want to do. Sometimes, getting stuck halfway up the stairs or not getting a cookie can trigger a temper tantrum.

What can you do when baby is howling, screaming and kicking? That depends. If she is upset because she can't get back down the stairs or sit down when standing, teach her how. Soon her abilities will match her desires.

If baby is upset because he can't have a cookie or play with your glasses, try to interest him in a different activity or object. If this doesn't work, ignore the tantrums. Read, look out a window, or turn the other way. Don't even look at him. You should stay nearby, however.

When she sees that you're not paying attention, your child will eventually quiet down. Once baby is calm, give her a hug and a little understanding. Her strong emotions are no fun for you, but they are scary for her.

What if the temper tantrum is in a public place, like the grocery store? This is harder. Once again, try to interest baby in something else, like a toy or a picture on a cereal box. Once a tantrum has begun, you may have to put up with it. Or pick her up and leave the store. Your child is not the first to have a tantrum in public and won't be the last. Even the people who frown or make comments have probably gone through it themselves. Ignore them.

Don't be tempted to spank him when he is having a tantrum. He is already out of control. It scares your baby even more when you are out of control and angry. Resist the urge to do something. In the long run, doing nothing will make the tantrums go away sooner.

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