Self-esteem and after school activities (1117)

The way a person feels about him or herself is called "self-esteem." Children with high self- esteem are better able to succeed in school and in life. Self-esteem begins at home and continues to develop as children become more involved with school and after-school activities.

After-school time is an important time for kids. What they choose to do does have an impact on them academically and upon building their self-esteem. Several studies have found participation in positive after-school programs does have a positive effect on grades in school, future educational attainment, and participation in voluntary organizations as adults. There is even stronger evidence that supports the theory that youth involved in quality after-school programs have increased self-esteem and self-worth.

When evaluating the after-school environment your son or daughter is involved with, ask the following questions. Does the environment allow my child to develop:

- Friendships outside the family?

- Socially accepted behavior, as well as his own inner standards of behavior?

- Her knowledge and intellect?

- Interest and skill in specific activities, hobbies, etc.?

- Responsibility?

- The ability to initiate and organize her own activities?

Answering yes to these questions in the beginning is one way to ensure that your son or daughter is in an environment that develops feelings of competence and autonomy and, ultimately, positive self-esteem.

Participation in positive quality after-school programs does make a difference in the lives of youth. Beyond a higher self-esteem and feelings of self-worth, there is a correlation with academic performance and educational aspirations. Working together with your child to select the after-school program or programs he will be involved in will increase the quality of the experience for both the youth and the parents.

If you want your children to feel good about themselves, you have to feel good about them and let them know it. Here are a few ways parents can help build their children’s self-esteem:

- Use words that encourage and build self-esteem and involvement. For instance, "I'm so glad you're participating; I know you're going to be great and have fun too."

- Tell your children you think they are great. Tell them they are important to you and give them a hug and a smile.

- Remember to have faith in your child; it helps build his confidence.

- Share some time together each day; it doesn't have to be an entire evening to make a difference.

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